5 Ways To Avoid The Bottom Of The Social Hierarchy

Many will never admit it, but the forming of hierarchies is a natural and inevitable result of any social grouping. The moment you join a new group of people (a class, workplace, sports team) individuals will begin undertaking subtle tests of each other’s mettle. These will decide who they will listen to and who they will ignore, who they will befriend and who they will ostracize, who they want to fuck, and who they don’t.

Passing these tests is a vital part of attaining social success. For those who have trouble socializing, your goals may not be all that high. At a bare minimum, you may simply want to avoid being “that guy.” You know who I mean:

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There’s one in every group of more than two people. It’s that awkward kid in class who people always avoid sitting next to. The insecure work colleague who is never invited to anything. The clueless guy who is bullied for the slightest social mishap, made even more frequent by the maddening double standards people have.

You see, not only is “that guy” socially inept, he can never be socially adept. Even when he acts just like everyone else, trying hard to fit in, there seems to be some kind of unspoken agreement not to let the socially retarded kid gain an inch of popularity. He’s the one everyone’s making fun of, and that’s the way things are going to stay.

Few people will offer you genuine, useful advice on how this works. After all, why give the plebs the tools to revolt? But lets take an honest stab.

5. Never show signs of weakness

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You stubbed your toe? Tough. A ball hit you in the face? Ignore it. A guy called you an idiot? Give him the finger and keep going.

Alphas males never show weakness. Betas are the ones who prick their finger then run around showing it to everyone. An alpha walks into a room with his leg in a cast and doesn’t mention it unless someone asks. Let others come to you, and remain as casual about your misfortune as possible.

This goes for how you organize your life as well. Don’t be the guy always losing things, or who is always asking to borrow a pencil or for a lift home, or who always turns up late (unless it is…fashionably late). Appearing not to give a shit can be an important social tool, but being simply disorganized is the opposite.

I noticed a curious example when driving to school camps—it would always be one of the unpopular kids who’d put up their hand first and ask if we could stop for a bathroom break. The cooler kids would remain silent, never breaking frame. Yet once we did stop, they’d pile off the bus and head to the bathroom just as much as everyone else.

4. Come Prepared

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There’s a saying here in Australia – you’re not a true Aussie unless you’re friends with at least one person just because they have a pool, a caravan, or a boat. Take advantage of this principle.

This overlaps with the above, but concerns your preparations before any kind of social gathering. Always turn up at parties carrying a slab of beer, a bottle of Smirnoff, or whatever your social group drinks, though be careful what kind you bring. Alcohol choice is perhaps the closest men come to fashion choices – we will notice it. People are typically assholes about this. Vodka cruisers are out – but vodka and soft drink may be fine.

On anything outdoorsy, bring packets of lollies, nuts or whatever sounds appropriate. Bring your phone or laptop with a killer music playlist. The last camp I went on, where we were in cabins, two guys bought an X-Box and stayed up till after midnight playing it.

Basically, make sure you bring props to help your interactions with others. This can work either for meeting girls or just talking to guys in general. Of course, don’t let people take advantage of you, but that should be obvious.

3. Look as attractive as possible

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Fat kids are routinely ostracized. The tall muscled footballer less so. This doesn’t mean getting your nails done, but be sure to spray on deodorant, gel your hair, and dress fashionably. Roosh has mentioned that one of the downsides of being a modern man is that we must pay much more attention to grooming than previous generations.

Good grooming should become part of your daily routine. Any particular weakness in your appearance, do your best to address it. In 2015 there is no shame in going down to the chemist to buy pimple cream, or to take a pair of scissors and trim your ass hair. Nobody else is going to do these things for you.

2. Practice, practice, practice

Since I started uni, I decided that you only live once, and it was best to try new things while I was young. In the past year, I have gone out and done:

  • Open mic comedy
  • Community radio
  • Footy training
  • Charity work
  • Salsa Dancing
  • Submitting short stories and articles

Seriously, just go talk to people. A lot of young guys give up too easily. I had a weird conversation a few months ago waiting for a train late at night. A guy came up to me and said “hi.” I asked if I knew him. He said no, sat down, introduced himself as “Stewie” and said he just felt like talking. We chatted for over an hour.

It turns out he does this all the time. He likes to go up to random strangers and say something to them like – “Hey mate, I’d just like to say, you’re looking good. Have a nice day!” and walk off.

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Stewie (artist’s impression)

In most environments (public transport, uni, workplaces) people seal themselves off behind a phone, earphones, a book, or something else. Once you break that ice, however, conversation tends to flow easily.

Something I’ve realized is that “nerdy” people are not necessarily smarter than the general population. They may be great in certain specialized fields, but the real difference is that while they’ve spent years learning about cellular biology, the history of ancient Greece or memorizing every Star Trek episode ever broadcast, others were immersed in honing their day-to-day social skills.

It all tends to even out in the end. Just watch the Big Bang Theory. The guys are A-grade physicists and engineers – but Penny knows how to actually talk to people. I’ve come to regret a lot of wasted time in high school where I was often the nerdy kid who’d go to the library to read a book rather than have mates to chill with outside. Things did improve over time, but once you fall a few years behind its very hard to catch up.

1. When in doubt, remain silent

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Learning the language of any new social group is key. Otherwise, you’ll stick out like you’ve entered a foreign country. Sometimes, it is just better to be silent. This is the most important single thing I have learned about socializing.

I’ll admit I was a bit Hermione-ish in my youth, being the kid who’d always put up his hand to answer a teacher’s question. I eventually realized this was social poison.

Stay silent, remain mysterious, sit at the back of the class and rarely raise your hand. Don’t be too cheap with your time or your attention or it will quickly become valueless. This is probably the origin of the stereotype of the “strong, silent type” – a good kind of person to be.

I don’t mean never initiate conversations (of course you should) but always have a purpose in mind. Keep inane chatter to a minimum. Give people something worth listening to. Cultivate passions and skills of value so that others find themselves coming to you. This is true on social media as well.

We all know that ideally in a conversation you want to be using fewer words than the other person. Your aim is that others should be contacting you first most of the time.

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Now I don’t know if all this comes naturally to others and I’m just struggling along in the distance. Then again, perhaps taking the long way up has gained me insights others take for granted.  If somebody had told me all this when I was 14 or so, I think I’d have had a much better time in high school.

If you’re currently stuck there, I would like to give the advice that your life doesn’t really begin until you turn 18. So many movies obsess over it, but in hindsight, school is a very small pond. If you’re already the omega in an established social group – sorry, but chances are you’re stuck there.

Whenever you enter a new one however, the above can help you fit right in, or even rise to the top, rather than sink to the murky depths of social isolation.

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Why The Native Peoples Were Doomed

We’re soon to have Australia Day here down under. This involves a lot of beer drinking, barbeques, fireworks displays and social justice circlejerks over events that occurred centuries ago.

More than most countries, Australia is still in the midst of a serious guilt trip over our colonial past. As Australia Day commemorates the landing of the first fleet at Botany Bay in 1788, activists have taken to calling it “invasion day.” Sovereignty was never ceded they claim – as if that statement makes any sense.

We all know what these rantings and ravings are about. This is nothing to do with correcting historic wrongs, or actually helping indigenous Australians. This is nothing more than a group of brainwashed, grown-up children marching around desperately trying to lay claim to a shred of moral superiority.

Whenever I encounter one of these dumb, self-righteous fuckwits, I’ve taken to saying the following – “So if we sent you back in a Delorean to 1750, with the mission of preventing the colonization of Australia, how would you go about it?” Amazingly, I am yet to hear a satisfactory answer.

The Aborigines’ luck runs out

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Doom for the Aboriginal culture did not come with the landing of the first fleet at Botany Bay in 1788—it came about ten thousand years earlier when groups of similarly nomadic humans started settling down into the first permanent settlements in ancient Mesopotamia.

Living in large groups, disease spread quickly. The peoples of the old world had to adapt as malaria, bubonic plague, smallpox and a hundred other epidemics swept through their cities time and again. It is not that the Aborigines were suddenly worse off than everyone else post-1788. After thousands of years of isolation, their luck just ran out, and like a species of flightless birds, their complacency cost them dearly.

Turning back the clock

Nor can you specifically blame the British for causing this. Lets say, hypothetically, they could be convinced not to settle at Botany Bay. Would Australia still remain untouched today? I imagine that without the British settlement, the French would have been right behind. If not them, then the Spanish, or the Portuguese, the Dutch, the Belgians, the Germans, the Italians…hell even the Swedish had overseas colonies.

Colonial World Map

As anyone living in the real world knows, you only have sovereignty over something so long as you can defend it, as Australia successfully did in 1942.

Of course, the whole issue is complicated. This isn’t to say we couldn’t have treated the native peoples more wisely at times. Of the half million or so Aborigines living in Australia in 1788, this number was down to under 100,000 by 1900. Around 20,000 died from violence (as well as 2,000 Europeans) the remainder from disease.

You can imagine the pattern. Settlers move into a new area. Local Aborigines spear their sheep. The settlers go out and shoot the Aborigines. This cycle went on for a century or so, as has always occurred when an agricultural society encroaches on a hunter-gatherer one.

There is very little to suggest a program of organized genocide against the Aboriginals however, though it is one of the left’s favorite myths. For years we’ve been told of the “Stolen Generations,” a system whereby thousands of Aboriginal children were apparently removed from their families by racist authorities purely for being black.

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Other historians however, argue that the vast majority were removed over welfare concerns, growing up in broken communities where abuse and neglect were rampant. Many of them were half-caste children, which were often treated with scorn by the full-bloods of their tribes.

This hysteria has not only become mainstream, but practically unquestionable, since the release of the film Rabbit-Proof Fence in 2002. It supposedly tells the “true story” of a group of half-caste girls taken from a remote aboriginal settlement in 1931 to a “re-education camp” who then escape and walk 1,500 miles back home. I recall watching it as a kid (as it was screened in schools) and its actually a pretty good movie.

Unfortunately, its also mostly bullshit.

“Activism” can do more harm than good

You could ignore all this if these people weren’t doing any real harm. However, because of the stolen generations myth, welfare workers are now very hesitant to remove Aboriginal children from their families, even when they live under deplorable conditions. This has dire consequences. Indigenous children are four times more likely to experience sexual abuse than other Australian children.

There’s also the bizarre trend that more and more people are choosing to identify as Aboriginal in the census, even if it makes up a tiny portion of their ancestry. This would be equally harmless—except that federal government grants go to those states with higher reported populations of indigenous. Thus billions of dollars is not going to help remote communities, but being given to large, urban states for no good fucking reason at all.

Once again, the left is perfectly happy putting political correctness over saving lives, or common sense in general.

What about the noble savage?

Many also love to believe in the myth of the noble savage, but there’s nothing to suggest the Aborigines were less brutal than most native peoples. When humans first reached Australia, dozens of species of Australian megafauna—including giant wombats, kangaroos, echidnas, platypuses, koalas, goanas, snakes, crocodiles and turtles, were all wiped out by the coming of man.

Of course we all accept that killing animals is not on the same level as killing fellow humans, but is there any indication the Aborigines were different to the British forty millennia later? Australia would still have the diversity of the African Serengeti if not for the Aboriginal invasion. It is possibly the worst ecological disaster to happen in the history of this continent.

In an interesting twist, the Tasmanian Tiger, which was wiped out by Aborigines on the mainland and later by Europeans in Tasmania, is now a prime candidate for cloning. It may very well be brought back from the dead by those same fiendish white men.

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Of course, I bear no ill will towards the Aborigines. They have had an unfortunate plight over the past two hundred years. Even today, there’s a massive (though closing) gap between Aborigines and the rest of the population in living standards – everything from life expectancy to literacy to incarceration rates.

But these same activists are doing precious little to actually help them. Most have probably never been to a remote Aboriginal community or a detention center in their lives.

To them, they are not human beings, but mere playthings in a moral tug of war that benefits no one but the activists themselves.

We all know what this is really about. This is another great liberal wankfest. It is a mass of young “progressive” activists bragging about their moral superiority, and shutting their ears to anyone who dares call them out on their own bullshit and the harm it causes.

Don’t give them the time of day.

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The Deregulation of the Sexual Marketplace

Even to the casual observer, the realities of western dating today can seem bizarre. Contradictions are everywhere. How are there so many promiscuous, “slutty” women around, and yet so many desperate twentysomething virgin males? How are there so many “alpha” males with extensive dating histories, and yet many attractive women lamenting the lack of “decent” men anywhere?

But there is an answer, one the manosphere has been aware of for some time, but often has trouble articulating. Here then, I shall attempt to explain it in useful chart form.

The reality of the past fifty years, of the rise of second and third wave feminism, of the culture wars and the collapse of the family unit, could be summed up in one word—deregulation. In short, people are no longer beholden to a great deal of legal and social restrictions on their behavior, particularly when it comes to their sexuality. A whole host of sexual behaviors, once rare (or at least taboo) are now increasingly common—sex before marriage, “open” relationships, one-night stands, masturbation, childbirth outside of wedlock, single parenthood…the list goes on. In most western countries, divorce rates are now pushing 50%.

Now in our modern, globalized world, the idea of “deregulation” may sound appealing. What need was there, many wonder, for such restrictions in the first place?

A reality of human behavior, one which today’s feminists resolutely ignore, is the obvious fact that men generally desire sex a great deal more than women. Surveys across the board indicate that men masturbate, or else desire sex, about three times as often. By rejecting this, feminists decide to ignore all of the implications it has in our society.

We could depict this difference in libido between the sexes like so:

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Clearly, when it comes to sex, women are in far greater demand. In our politically correct society this reality is often denied, but let’s face facts.

The question of how to divide up this relatively limited amount of desire among women is one every human society has struggled with. Basically, if you fail to regulate the market, the logical result is a small minority of men garnering the attention of the vast majority of all women. Not totally dissimilar to a lion pride, a handful of males can service a much larger number of females.

To prevent this, societies have almost always regulated women’s sexuality to some degree. Certainly some individuals (generally the nobility and others with a great deal of wealth and power) got more than their fair share of attention, but by and large most men were guaranteed a wife. This was necessary in order to maintain social stability.

The pre-1960s dating market thus looked something like this:

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Over the last fifty years however, these ancient rules have been discarded, leading to exactly the situation described above. Rather than a roughly equal distribution of partners, a small minority of men have come to command most of the attention of the fairer sex, while the rest are left out in the cold:

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Annotated further, we get this reality:

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Looking at this overview, a great deal of mystery about the modern day sexual marketplace evaporates. Studies consistently show that, when it comes to number of sexual partners, men come first in both the lowest (i.e. zero partners) and highest (say, ten or more) categories.

The rich, the famous, and the physically most attractive are in the latter group. This then leaves a huge portion of the male population who are forced into what has lately been called “involuntary celibacy” (or incel for short).

Of course, there is still some natural variation in the quality of partners. The least attractive women are still unlikely to score the most attractive men, but they are consistently able to punch above their weight. You can find countless news articles about women in their 40s and 50s foraying into online dating and successfully bedding desperate guys half their age. Such articles are typically clueless on the actual causes of this phenomenon. “Young men now actively seeking older women!” the headlines proclaim—not realizing that only a lack of suitable partners their own age has driven them to this.

Aside from the media headlines, most people can probably relay a number of anecdotes that reflect this new reality. Personally I know of a number of men (generally older, wealthier ones, men who travel to Thailand a lot, younger buff guys, and guys in bands) who have slept with likely dozens of women. At the other end of the spectrum I still know of a great number of virgins, even though most of my friends (and former classmates who I keep in touch with) are now in their early 20s.

It’s worth mentioning at this point, that even the “winners” of this new reality may not necessarily be better off. For the vast majority of men, this new order could rightly be described as soul-crushing of course, but for the top-quota men and women who have seen the quality of their sex lives go up, most of what they’ve got is just that—sex.

There’s no denying that long term relationships are on the decline. Social conservatives are often described as hateful and misogynist for railing against promiscuity, but the statistics don’t lie. Marriages in which the wife was a virgin have an 80% chance of succeeding, while the figure for brides who have had 15 or more premarital partners is just 20%.

Basically, there’s an ever-increasing number of washed-up old hags out there who are coming to regret their earlier promiscuity, and are now facing the realization that they will probably die alone and childless. Whatever “decent” men there might be out there are typically dating women half their age, while older women quietly seethe at a younger generation doing exactly what they did when they were that young.

This has economic effects as well. The elderly used to be looked after by their partners or their children once they got too old, but an increasing number are now destined for retirement homes—ones for which the taxpayer will no doubt have to fork over the cost. Here in Australia, the decline in average household size (from 3.1 in 1976 to 2.6 today) means there are just over one million extra houses today than there otherwise would be.

That’s a million extra fridges running 24/7, and hundreds of thousands of extra dishwashers, microwaves, washing machines, cars and other devices. No wonder the cost of living is continuing to skyrocket.

As for the younger generation, the blurred line between alphas and betas, where marriageable men may still be found, seems to be shrinking every year. ROK author Tuthmosis covered this brilliantly in a post last year.

The real problem with this new reality however, is found in the hordes of thirsty young men who fall outside the fortunate group at the top. The reality can no longer be ignored that the deregulation of the sexual marketplace has disenfranchised millions of young men across the western world. Elliot Rodgers is merely among the most extreme examples. Others have written detailed articles on his story.

Aside from mass-shooters, there is also the reality that young men commit suicide at around four times the rate women do. Furthermore, the number one cause cited for such deaths is actually breakups—a factor in a whopping 75% of cases.

One can also see how this crisis of intimacy has divided the male community. We can outline three groups—the manosphere, PUA-hate and white knights.

The first group basically accepts the new reality, and generally consists of men who are (or think they have a decent shot of becoming) in the top portion of men who have much to gain on the sexual market. “PUA-hate” refers to those who are rallying against the new reality, and we can include Elliot Rodgers among them. The last group basically rejects the whole thing, and thinks that either stable marriages can still exist in our society regardless, or that it doesn’t matter much anyway.

I would hope to count myself among the first group, but that isn’t to say the other two are completely inferior. If only a minority of men stand to gain from this new order, then the betas of PUA-hate will always outnumber the alphas of the manosphere, and if a revolution ever comes, like the Proles in 1984—it will come from them.

The new reality

If there’s one thing socialists have always understood, it is that you can only deregulate a market so far before the losers, justly or not, begin to respond violently. This is because violence, more than any other currency, is not a distortion of the free market; it is the ultimate free market.

The collapse of the family unit could be compared to Russia after the fall of Communism—society may have become “freer,” but it also became more unequal and actually poorer. Unemployment and poverty, previously almost unknown, became commonplace. Similar trends are now seen in western countries regarding sexuality. Involuntary celibacy, the social equivalent of unemployment, is increasingly common, and the latest surveys show that people are actually having LESS sex today than they used to.

No resolution to these problems seems to be in sight. Even trying to admit their existence will bring social justice warriors crashing down on you, hurling the tired old labels of “sexist” and “misogynist.” It is a crying shame that, while the left typically comes out against excessive inequality, since we’re discussing women’s issues this is trumped by feminist dogma.

Just as wealth inequality will surely drive up crime rates and destabilize a society, it is not hard to see that this newfound crisis of inequality of intimacy is causing much the same thing. Our society is largely blind to this reality, but chances are we won’t be able to ignore it forever.

 

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